Dating a newly divorced man with kids
If you aren't supportive and become jealous, you will only make things worse and jeopardize your own relationship with him. Keep in mind that the situation with a divorced man is slightly different.This is the mother of his children, the woman he loved, and you should treat her with respect, even though there may be a conflict between them. His past relationship makes things more complicated and stressful.Continually bringing us his ex will add stress to his life, forcing him to remember things he doesn't wish to. Some women doubt they are good enough, seeing herself and his ex as competitors. You are a person with your own beliefs, perspectives, and opinions, and those things are what attracted him to you.The best way to help him to heal is to enjoy your time together.After going through a divorce, the last thing anyone wants is a new partner introducing new problems.Love each other for who you are, not where you've been, but at the same time, be sensitive. Depending on how long he was married, you might find he does things that you find odd or inappropriate. Let him know there are things that may have been okay in his marriage, that are not okay with you.The best thing you can do is be positive in everything you say to him, also do not remind him of his current situation.
Also giving him a year to get himself together will also ensure that the relationship between him and his ex is officially over.
When it comes to conversations, listening, rather that talking is more helpful.
Sometimes, when no words are necessary, a long hug, or simply holding he had speaks volumes.
If it is not, he is not as good a man as you hope he is. There's enough chaos in this situation for everyone. The kids are already dealing with the divorce of their parents, and they may not be ready to meet Dad's new girlfriend.
It's important to remember that most kids of divorced parents, still hold out hope they will get back together. Allow the relationship to grow stronger, and more secure, and then you can develop a relationship with his children.