Dating someone who suffers from depression
The following 8 tips can help you in your dating relationship when your significant other struggles with depression.The last thing you should try to do when dating someone with depression is "fix" them.Some people are afraid of being in a relationship with someone that is dealing with mental health challenges, but that may mean on missing out on being with a great person.You don't need to avoid dating someone with depression, but it will most likely require you to invest a little more effort into your relationship than you otherwise would.They are not a "broken" person that needs you to fix them. There is nothing that you are going to do to make it better magically.
When you are struggling with depression, some days are good, and others aren't.
Don’t say you’re ‘depressed’ when you’re feeling sad. If we do something wrong, criticise our actions, not us as a person. You don’t need to walk on eggshells or treat us like a delicate flower. Sometimes our down moments are prompted by something, sometimes they’re not. ’ Yes, we’re perfectly aware that there are people around the world without food and shelter.
Language is powerful in itself, but a depressed person will read into what you say, take it deeply personally, and analyse it for hours until it confirms every bad thing we think about ourselves. Sometimes it gets too much and we just come along to that big party/dinner with friends/lunch with your parents. We’re not being flaky, we just don’t feel like we can do it today. Please don’t endlessly question why we’re feeling so rubbish. We can feel great and think we’ve finally got through this one day, then find ourselves in a pretty dark place (in our minds. Medication can mess things up for a bit, as can, well, just being depressed. Each reason our life is brilliant feels like a little stab in our heart, asking: ‘why aren’t you happy? We feel awful about that, and we already feel like self-obsessed oversensitive arseholes for being miserable with our comparatively brilliant lives. And we don’t need anyone confirming our belief that we’re sh*tty people.
Instead, they are just looking for you to love and support them.
They will quickly grow tired of you attempting to fix them all the time.