Men dating problems
The head of the family decides who and when one should marry, keeping Patriarchy well and truly alive. As Rishab Goel says, “ mama’s boy, how can they be anything else but? A Chennai mom instructs a mom in Jaipur on the intricacies of making Idli/Sambhar for her son studying in Jaipur.Remember how thrilled a mother is when the baby takes her first step? The mom promptly makes a batch and delivers to him in his college.Just the phrase “Dating Indian Men” is enough for a tumult of reactions, much like shouting “Fire” in a crowded area.Some people will run away to avoid getting into a discussion; Some will just stand and watch, the rest will have opinions ranging from “What brutes they are! ” and everything in between; Some of us will go on a tangent with comments like “Why date? ” and “Against our ancient culture”, and of course, the inevitable “From Sita to Draupadi, the woman is the source of all problems, even with dating.” There will also be quite a few declaring that the problem is not the Indian Men, it is the Indian Woman, leading the poor lamb on and abandoning him at the altar of parental approval. This is doubly true for Indian men, they have not quite evolved from the pack foraging stage of Gorillas.Similarly, the Chennai mom learns to make Ghatiya over the phone and delivers it to the Jaipuri son in Chennai.When you are dating a migrant Indian, things are a lot different.
This is the society where unrelated boys and girls hanging out in public on Valentines could be forcibly married! Marriage exists and the marriage is between two families, not between two individuals.
He wants you to suddenly become a chameleon, docile potential bride to his mother, cool indulgent brat to his siblings and cool sophisticate to his colleagues, an endless list really.
All your “cute” traits – the somewhat loud laughter or your messy hair, become liabilities as you go about meeting his “people”.
He will want to know the composition of your friends groups, how many girls, how many boys, how many of them have hit on you, how many have you viewed favourably and so on and so forth. What are your intentions or do you know his intention?
If you possess all the right qualities, the caste/creed/education/social strata his mother would approve of, he will decide you are the only one for him.